Even for the most eloquent of writers, having the words to say during these times is very difficult. The issue seems to be twofold: 1) words feel like a small and almost trivial gesture for such a huge and life-altering event in someone's life; 2) how can you be sure to be completely sensitive and not risk offending the bereaved individual/family.
It helps to remember a few things to counteract the thoughts that might prevent you from writing a sympathy card or letter.
- A sympathy letter is meant to show support and love to the family/friends suffering from a loss. It's true that your words can't bring anyone back from the dead, but words can offer support. The world feels like it stops completely for grieving individuals, and it validates their experience when they receive a card or letter that acknowledges this for them. They just need to know it's okay and that their world has in fact been taken off its axis.
- Chances are that your words will not offend the bereaved if they are well thought out. You can view a sample letter of sympathy and ideas on how to write sympathy letters to help guide you through the process.
- Sending a sympathy letter and expressing support is always better than not doing so. Sometimes moving beyond your own discomfort is the key to finding the words to say to someone. Ultimately -- expressions of sympathy can mean a lot to people experiencing loss.
